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Empowering Parents

With such a vast variety of information and images found online, the Internet has opened up a wide new set of topics for parents to discuss with their children. Most of us find it difficult to talk to our children about sex in general, let alone, the harmful effects of pornography. Yet, it's important to remember that even if your children are not looking for Internet pornography, chances are, they have come across harmful sexual content at some point, and it is your job to protect and guide them about their natural questions about sex.

"If I was a parent, I'd want to establish that relationship with my kid and to actually be honest with them and talk to them, and say, 'I went through this, and even seeing pornography once can just hurt you so much. Seeing little pictures can put all these things in your mind.' It's just horrible."

— Aaron, Age 19

My child has stumbled upon online pornography—now what?

First, try to:

  • Understand that children are naturally curious about sex
  • Realize that kids need and want adult guidance
  • Educate your child about healthy sexuality, respect for themselves and the opposite sex
  • Help your child to replace counterfeit messages with messages of wholesome sexual values

Keep the lines of communication open by listening to what your kids say and what they don’t say.

Ask your children:

  • Have you ever seen something online that made you uncomfortable or curious?
  • Have you accidentally seen sexual pictures online?
  • How did that happen? What did you do? How did it make you feel?
  • Have any of your friends ever accessed pornography? Accidentally or intentionally?

Additional Resources:

How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography (book from Educate and Empower Kids) (places special emphasis on helping moms raise their tween girls to be sexually pure, modest and emotionally whole teen girls)
White Ribbon Week A program for elementary schools that help children become safe online through media literacy. As they participate in White Ribbon Week, children learn new skills that help them avoid harmful media and use technology for good.

Culture Reframed Parents Program Culture Reframed understands how daunting it can be to raise kids in a culture where they are bombarded with sexual images, including porn. That’s why they created a Parents Program, which provides a complete best practice toolkit, which will give you the skills and knowledge you need to raise porn-resilient kids.